Rising up, not having my ears pierced usually left me feeling just like the odd one out. In Puerto Rican tradition, many mother and father pierce their youngsters’s ears shortly after they’re born. It was usually a ceremony of passage, and being with out my very own pair appeared to confuse some folks. I used to be usually requested why my mom did not pierce my ears after I was youthful, and I by no means precisely had a solution for them; it was only a choice my mom selected to not make for me. Typically, I might flip the query again on them, asking why they selected to make that call for his or her youngster. The commonest solutions had been that folks did not need their child woman to be mistaken for a boy, or that it was merely custom.

The (generally actually devastating) gender reveals which have not too long ago been shaking up the information cycle have introduced me again to musing over this less-obtrusive manner that some mother and father select to let the world know their child was assigned feminine at start. “This persistent and obligatory coupling of female and feminine is, partly, what results in ear piercing as a visual signifier of femaleness itself,” Sasha T. Goldberg, a doctoral candidate and analysis assistant in gender research at Indiana College Bloomington, tells me. Tying femininity, or lack thereof, to an ear-piercing appears to me like a heavy expectation to placed on a toddler that has no say within the choice in any other case. As Jessany Maldonado, an affiliate teacher and graduate pupil at Indiana College Bloomington, specializing within the research of Black sexuality, extra plainly places it: “When you’re attempting to push a ‘gendering agenda’ …attempting to drive different folks to assemble your youngster as A or B, then there’s some inside insecurities that [you] have to work out.”

As my fellow millennials and even youthful gen Zers begin having our personal youngsters, a few of us discover ourselves having to parse two probably opposing views. Many people perceive gender to be a spectrum and never one thing that may all the time be precisely assigned at start. Many people additionally come from households the place piercing a child’s ears, particularly if they are a woman, is just custom. Because it’s usually part of our tradition, it is usually anticipated that we’ll be desirous to proceed the pattern once we change into mother and father. “Getting your ears pierced as a girl of coloration is seen as a ceremony of passage within the Black neighborhood,” says Taylor Gibbons, 27. “It is so ingrained in older Black ladies and men that after I don’t have earrings in my ear, I’m known as out and scolded for it at the same time as an grownup.”

The Tradition of Piercing

This was a typical theme amongst the general public I interviewed for this piece: Greater than having a hyper-specific non secular or cultural reasoning for piercing a child’s ears, their mother and father pierced their ears primarily as a result of everybody they knew did too. (It is price noting that the American Academy of Pediatrics says there’s “little threat” related to ear piercing, no matter age.)  “My mother and father pierced my ears after I was a child, however they by no means gave a selected motive why. After I ask, they are saying ‘as a result of we did,'” Justice McNeil, 21, says, noting that they didn’t do the identical for her brother, who later selected to pierce his ears when he was about 9 or 10.

“It is fairly unusual for Indian folks, particularly for a woman, to not have your ears pierced,” says Aarati Akkapeddi, 27. “I feel there’s additionally a spiritual significance for Hindus…I do know there are all types of theories round Ayurvedic stress factors within the physique. I am certain my mother and father did not give it some thought in such element, however piercing your child’s ears was positively normalized of their social circles.”

Pink does not all the time signify femininity, nor does blue signify masculinity — and anybody can pierce their ears.

Traditionally, cultural ties to piercing are frequent throughout cultures, even when they may not be the express motive many mother and father pierce their youngsters’s ears at this time. As an example, ear piercing, often known as karnavedha in Hinduism, is likely one of the 16 sanskar rituals that mark phases of life and signify cultural heritage and upbringing. Normally, youngsters could have their ears pierced after their start in a karnavedha ceremony that celebrates this symbolic follow.


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